How to gain control over your anxiety: 7 useful tips

Many people suffer from Anxiety at some point in life. The most common fears are: getting an illness, loosing your job, hurting or losing the people around you, underperforming at important events or not being liked by the people around us. Luckily, anxiety does not need to control us. In this post you will find 7 useful tips about how to fight anxiety:

  1. Know your anxiety. Knowing what makes us anxious is the first step in reducing our fear. Try to keep a notebook of situations in which you felt nervous or anxious. Write down what happened, when it happened and what you thought. This will help you to find patterns in your anxiety.
  2. Remember that anxiety won’t last forever. Anxiety is the reaction of our body to a situation we perceive as frightening. It prepares us to fight or flight from a dangerous situation. Many people think that if they don’t do anything to stop anxiety, it will go on forever. Fortunately however, our body cannot stay in the “fight-or-flight” mode for a long time. If we stay in the situation long enough our anxiety level will always go down!

    Anxiety curve

    The red line shows how most people think Anxiety works. The blue line shows that our Anxiety always goes down if we stay in the situation long enough.

  3. Expose yourself to your fears. Usually when we´re afraid, we start avoiding the situations we fear. For example someone who’s afraid of getting an illness might avoid sick people,or going to the doctor. When we avoid we tell our brain that something dangerous is really about to happen, and we can never discover if the opposite is true. By exposing ourselves to our fear and staying in the situation long enough, our anxiety will go down.
  4. Schedule worry time. Sometimes it can be difficult to stop worrying. The best thing you can do is to schedule 1 hour during the day in which you have to worry. During the rest of the day write down your worries in a booklet and save them for your worry time. It might sound strange to force yourself to worry but it´s the best way to gain control over our worries.Worry time Anxiety
  5. Tire yourself. Our body can only be anxious when we have the energy for it. One of the best ways to fight anxiety is to engage in exercise. Take the bicycle, go for a run or go skating. The more tired you are, the less anxious you´ll be.
  6. Breathe properly.The way we breathe can greatly affect how we feel. When you feel anxious try to take deep and slow breaths. Try to raise your abdomen with every breath instead of your chest. This will increase the oxygen level in your body and make you feel more relaxed.
  7. Change your diet. Reduce the amount of coffee, tea, energy drinks and cola you consume. They´ll make you more anxious, which is just what we want to prevent.

As you can see there are many things we can do to gain control over our anxiety. For more useful tips check out the tips from the Anxiety and Depression Association. Also, if you have any questions feel free to comment. I’ll answer them gladly :).

I’m curious about your experiences. What do you do when you feel nervous or anxious? Did the tips help you?

What is Depression? And how can I feel better?

In nowadays society Depression is a more common phenomenon than it used to be. Actually, 16,5% of the population will develop a depression at some moment in his life. The possibility that you or somebody you know has a depression in this moment, or might develop it in the future is really big. In this blog post we explain what a depression is, and what you can do if you are or know someone with a depression.

Depression

Depression is way more common than you might think.

What is a Depression?
A depression is a period in your life in which you feel sad or down during most of the time, you are low on energy and/or you feel less motivated. You can also experience any of the following symptoms:

  • Sleepiness or insomnia (inability to fall asleep).
  • Loosing or gaining weight (more than 5 kilos) due to either low or increased appetite.
  • Loosing interest in activities that you used to like
  • Feeling negative toward oneself including feelings of worthlessness or excessive guilt.
  • Difficulty with concentration or making decisions
  • Feeling hopeless or helplessness
  • Loss of sexual desire or lack of interest in sexual activity.
  • Having suicidal thoughts (thoughts about ending your life). If you experience suicidal thoughts; do not wait to look for professional help, contact a professional immediately.
  • Feelings of irritability or restlessness

If you´re experiencing several of this symptoms for more than 2 weeks it’s possible that you’re suffering from a depression.

Why do I feel Depressed?

You can feel depressed for several reasons. You might have suffered a negative experience, you might keep on having the same negative thoughts popping up in your head or you might suffer from a depression that has a (partly) biological base.

  • Depression is a natural response to negative experiences like unemployment, a break-up, loss of people or things we love, a financial setback, or even a move to a different neighborhood or country. Other factors that may cause depression include trouble having and keeping social relationships or not being able to find a solution to the difficulties we experience.
  • Depression is also related to negative thoughtsNegative thoughts can make us feel bad. You might have certain negative thoughts about yourselve or others that keep on popping up and make you feel miserable. In therapy a psychologist can help you to change negative thoughts into more positive and helpful ones.
  • Furthermore depression can have a biological base.  Low levels of Serotonine and Dopamine in the brain may predispose us to develop a depression. For more information check this website about the biological base of depression.

What can I do if I have a Depression?

A lot of people ask themselves what they should do when they discover they are depressed. Even though it is a good idea to reach out to talk about your feelings with someone you trust, it is also important to go see a health professional.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is the most effective therapy there is for Depression.

  • cognitive behavioral psychologist can help you identify the cause of why you are feeling this way and can help you to feel better as soon as possible. Instead of giving direct advise or explaining personal stories as friends or family might do, a psychologist will listen to you objectively and will try to get more information so they can help you the best he can.
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is currently the most effective therapy there is for depression.The majority of people suffering from depression experience considerable relief within 3 or 4 weeks of effective treatment, and long-lasting relief within 3 to 6 months of treatment (www.abct.org).
  • Don’t wait to long too look for help! Many people wait too long before they start a treatment, and suffer longer than necessary! Don’t be that person and get help as soon as you notice that you are depressed! You deserve to feel better!

The majority of people suffering from depression experience considerable relief from depression within 3 or 4 weeks of Cognitive Behavioral treatment, and long-lasting relief within 3 to 6 months of treatment .

If you would like to know more about depression or if you would like to make an appointment and see how I can help you to feel better, feel free to contact me.

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Lisette Zeeuw
Clinical Psychologist in Barcelona